💘 Things You Shouldn’t Obsess About When Looking for “The One” 💭
Being too picky might be keeping you single! 😬 Relationship expert Lori Gottlieb says it’s time to stop stressing over the small stuff — like age gaps, distance, or different interests — and start focusing on what really matters in love. 💘
10/9/20251 min read
When it comes to dating, a lot of us can be way too picky — and sometimes, that means we miss out on someone amazing. 😬
Relationship expert and author Lori Gottlieb — in her book “Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough” — says it’s time to stop focusing on the little things that don’t actually matter in the long run. 💅 The title sounds harsh, but it’s not really about “settling”… it’s about ditching the superficial stuff and paying attention to what really counts. ❤️
According to Gottlieb, here are some things people tend to obsess over that probably shouldn’t be dealbreakers:
💞 They’re a little older or younger than you — age is just a number, remember? 😉
🏡 They live far away — long distance doesn’t mean impossible! (Thank you, FaceTime.)
🎓 They don’t have a college degree — smart doesn’t always mean book-smart.
💔 They’re divorced — hey, that just means they’ve learned what not to do next time.
👶 They have kids — that can actually show maturity and commitment.
🌎 They’re from a totally different background — opposites really do attract!
🎨 They have different interests — you don’t have to love everything your partner does (and that’s what keeps things interesting).
At the end of the day, finding love isn’t about checking off boxes — it’s about finding someone who feels right and shows up for you. 💖
So maybe it’s time to loosen that “perfect person” checklist… because your person might not fit it anyway. 😉